父母,监护人 & 家庭
Entering college is a significant developmental milestone for students and their families. It is a time of transition for young adults and their parents/guardians.
Understanding Developmental Issues and the Transition to College Life
Getting accustomed to your student’s growing independence may take some adjusting to, 对你和你的学生都是如此. It may be helpful for you to reflect on some of the many changes taking place for your student during this time of life. 这些包括:
- 大学心理咨询中心服务
- Greater Independence: 学生 must learn to take care of themselves in important new ways, and they must be increasingly self-reliant while still depending on parents in many ways. 他们对家庭支持的需求可能会交替, 看似不可预知的, 因为它们需要保持距离.
- 发展亲密关系:典型的, 学生们与同龄人建立了牢固的联系, important intimate relationships with both friends and romantic partners, 以及在人际关系中更强的自我意识.
- 改变家庭角色:在家庭内部, students need to renegotiate important aspects of their relationships, 包括家庭角色和界限. This last task is often the most difficult for students and their parents to navigate, and can be challenging when dealing with issues such as control and sharing of information.
- Intellectual Growth: College is a time of life in which students experience rapid intellectual growth, 探索不同的想法, 意见, 以及思维方式. The student in your life may express thoughts and feelings that you strongly disagree with, or their intellectual development may spark related interests in you.
- Identity Development: 学生 at this age are exploring different facets of identity, 可能会尝试不同的风格和行为. This is part of developing a sense of themselves as unique individuals with value and importance.
大学期间为人父母的小贴士
再说一次，每个家庭都是独一无二的，其中的每个人也是独一无二的. Everyone is likely to have their own experience of this life passage, 他们有自己的特殊挑战, 快乐, 预期, 和关切. 然而, there are a number of ways you may help to nurture your relationship with your college student, so that it can be as growth-promoting and satisfying for both of you as is possible. 这里有一些朝着这个目标努力的建议:
- Set clear and reasonable 预期 about academics: Your student may have been a super-academic achiever in high school, 但在大学可能拿不到全a. 在某种程度上, your own 预期 continue to influence the 预期 students set for themselves. 帮助他们接受这样一个事实:尽自己所能做到最好是了不起的, 即使他们不在院长的名单上. If they truly do need academic assistance, encourage them to seek it out.
- Be a good listener: When problems arise at school – which they will – listen carefully to what your child says. 支持他们探索各种选择并找到自己的解决方案, 而不承担为他们解决问题的责任. Remind them about the resources that are available at school and encourage them to seek those out for further assistance.
- Be emotionally supportive: Be positive and encouraging but don’t push them to follow a particular course of action, 或者在专业或成绩上给他们施压. 你可以清楚地表达自己的意见, but trying to impose them on your student is likely to create conflict rather than positive changes.
- Stay in touch: It can be tricky to walk the line between maintaining connection with your child and giving them space they need at this age. Email, letters, care packages, and phone calls from home can help fight homesickness. 表达对孩子在学校经历的兴趣, 问他们关于课程的问题, 活动, 和朋友. 如果预算允许的话, 一点零用钱, 或者从当地商店买一张少量的礼品卡, can help your student get a special meal off-campus or pick up a small specialty item to brighten up their day.
- Ask them what they need from you: When you are not sure what to do, it’s okay to ask your child what they need from you at that moment. 他们可能只是想让你听, 例如, 当他们“发泄”某事时, without having you respond or be “helpful”; perhaps they need sympathy, 一个拥抱, 访问, 一通电话, 或者一段距离.
- 获得你需要的支持:这可能是一个令人困惑的时期, and may even sometimes feel like a bit of an emotional roller-coaster. One day your child may reach out for your support, the next day reject any offer of help. 你可能会发现自己有很多不同的感觉, 比如当你的孩子离家上大学时，你会感到宽慰, 对他们正在经历的事情感到焦虑, 与他们分离的悲伤和失落, 等. 这些都是自然反应，不会永远持续下去. Meanwhile, stay in touch with your own supportive friends and relatives. Talk with other parents who have been, or who are now going through, the same thing. 好好照顾自己, 包括做你喜欢的事情, 保证充足的休息和营养, 锻炼, 并使用健康的应对技巧来管理压力.
保护孩子的心理健康
咨询服务如何帮助父母?
- Counselors are available to speak with parents by phone or in person by appointment, regarding concerns or questions they may have about their son or daughter.
- Counselors can answer questions regarding the specific services the center offers.
- Counselors can help parents obtain referrals to clinicians and resources within the community.
- If you would like a counselor to contact your student, you can fill out a referral form.
提供什么服务??
- 个别咨询
- 夫妻咨询
- 适当时提供家庭辅导
- 教育项目和推广
- 药物滥用评估
- 毒品和酒精教育
- 危机干预
- 残疾事务办公室
- 实习/实习机会
服务费用是多少??
- All services are free to enrolled 德克萨斯南方大学 students
保密呢??
- Confidentiality is an important component of counseling relationships
- 所有提供给学生的服务都是保密的
- Laws prevent therapists from sharing information regarding a student’s counseling without the student’s permission
- Confidentiality doesn’t prohibit therapists from discussing ways parents can be helpful to their son or daughter with issues they may be facing.
大学生家长有哪些资源?
- www.collegeparents.org
- 别告诉我该怎么做，给我钱就行了 海伦·E. 约翰逊和克里斯汀·舍尔哈斯-米勒
- 放手:家长理解大学生活的指南 作者:卡伦·莱文·科尔本和玛吉·劳伦斯·特里格
- The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College 哈兰·科恩